7 Sanity Saving Tips for Busy Moms in 2020

Do you ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels and never getting anywhere? You’re not alone! As a busy mom of 3 very active children (One of which is entering her first melodramatic teenage year) I fully understand how we can constantly rush and rush, yet never really achieve what we set out to do each day.

 

Not that anyone really notices, but we sure as hell bust our ass every day doing the little trivial things that if we did not get done, then the whole shit show would fall apart anyways. Do you see our dilemma? We are constantly running in circles barely getting traction while tiring ourselves out and it needs to stop!

 

Let’s make this our year to finally get our family life organized and I truly believe it’s possible with some much needed tweaks along the way. Although, I can maybe see hoarding a larger quantity of coffee & dry shampoo while we adjust to some things. (Just my personal tip) Although it may not seem doable most days, it’s still a possibility and I’m running with it…like a toddler trying to escape nap time. We got this!

 

I have put together a list of some crucial steps that must take place before we can get this “show to the production line” in 2020 and finally have productive and successful days as busy moms!

 

1. We must start our day as well rested as possible I understand wanting to stay up the night before indulging in every second of silence that we can…believe me, I do! But we are setting ourselves up for complete and utter failure by not resting our minds. Coffee is magical, but not that good! Sleep is vital to this whole operation. With little ones getting sleep can be difficult if not impossible. Incorporate help from family or friends to watch your little bundle of joy so you can catch some much needed Zzzz’s.

 

2. Give yourself time to get ready for the day FIRST Whether it’s having 30 minutes of silence to enjoy a cup of coffee while the sun rises, or brushing your hair and applying your makeup without having to rush and ultimately stabbing yourself with the mascara wand. Set your alarm to wake you early and allow yourself some extra time to set the tone of your day in a peaceful way. It actually does work very well with step #1!

 

3. Don’t snap at the first sign of struggle Kids will be kids and they seem to come programmed knowing exactly what buttons to push to trigger your last nerve. So set the morning vibes and don’t back down when the trouble or inevitable bickering amongst siblings starts to ensue. Be strong, Mama! You got this.

 

4. Sometimes we need to go with the flow Just as important as it is to not snap at the first sign of struggle, it’s also very important to learn to just go with the flow of things. “Picking your battles” is a very real thing with Motherhood. It allows you to not stress yourself out over every little mess or shout (even if you really want to react) it’s best to just pick your battles and go with the flow. You and your children will be much happier for it.

 

5. Have a routine set in place for the whole family By having a routine set in place, you can help eliminate confusion or too many options for things to not get taken care of. (Example: Have your children clean their plates/bowls from the table after finishing breakfast. Have them lay out their school clothes the night before school to avoid rushing in the mornings. Likewise, lay out your work clothes the night before and enjoy that extra time in the mornings. Sit your trash can out the night before it runs…this is a huge sanity saver! Taking some time to plan and establish a routine of getting things in place will definitely save you and your whole family the headache when time runs short and you will all be glad you did.

 

6. Understand that things will not always go as planned Even if you plan everything out and have it all done the night before, things can and still do go wrong. Your child wakes up sick and throws up on the way out the door on the morning of your business meeting. Your child tells you the morning of their science project being due that they “forgot” to tell you about. You spill coffee on your brand new outfit, you forget your wallet at home, someone cuts you off in the parking lot stealing your spot and now you have to circle it 27 more times. Life happens and it gives us plenty of opportunities to scream and curse the skies, but we can choose not to. Not that I always take the high road in that department, I am however realizing that taking the high road isn’t just for other people, it’s more importantly for me and my inner peace.

 

7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow There will be days where things are going to go smooth and you snap anyways. You have a moment of weakness and simply snap in the middle of your child starting his story over again for the 89th time because he left out yet another small detail. You’ll feel horrible because of it and ask for forgiveness and of course they forgive you, but ultimately you have to forgive yourself, too. We are all human and most of us try the very best we can to do right by other people in hopes they do the same for us. But, at the end of the day all you can control is how you react and respond and what you’re willing to do different the next time the opportunity presents itself. You are not a failure simply because you fail at something. The world is full of great people who have failed more times than I have even attempted something, but they would never have gotten to where they are if they accepted the mindset of failure. Forgive yourself for your short comings (because we all have them) and pick yourself up and try again tomorrow.

 

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As I always say, life is a journey and a roller coaster one at that. With each high and low comes the same gift, a lesson. Experience in something we gained as a result of having gone through it. Whether good or bad, we are stronger because of it.

Choose to accept that every day is going to have its own set of challenges with ups & downs. As long as you’re doing your part in minimizing the chances of things going crazy by planning, having a routine, remaining calm and going with the flow of things so when life throws you a curve ball (as it will) you can forgive yourself for reacting poorly in the moment of a tough situation and try again tomorrow.

Allow yourself grace and understanding that better days are coming and you will get through all of the tough days just like you have gotten through all of them before that you could not see a way out of or an end in sight. You’re stronger and more capable than you think and you totally got this!

 

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

 

 

Inspiration for the New Year (and Decade)

Cheer’s to the New Year & Decade! May it be your BEST one yet!

 

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No matter where you are today or what you may be thinking, today symbolizes a fresh new start and opportunity. Today is the FIRST Monday of not only the year, but of the new decade! We could sit and grumble over the fact that it’s “Monday”, but let’s face it…we all need to look outside of the box from time to time and see things from another perspective. I’m here to offer just that and a bit of inspiration to boot!

 

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Whether you’re smashing your new year goals so far without the slightest bit of hesitation or grimace or you’re in serious need of a pick-me-up and ready to throw in the towel. You’re not alone!

 

Everyone has their own specific and personal goals in mind for what they’re bringing to this new chapter in their life and once again (the new decade). Hey, that’s pretty exciting stuff and you should be excited about it, too!

If there is one thing I love, it is to bring inspiration and cheer to others. No, I may not be able to say that I have walked in your shoes or felt what you’ve felt, but empathy is not lost on me and I, too, have had my share of grief in this life.

 

So cheer up, Momma!  You’re going to kick ass in this new season of your life & make your dreams come true!

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Whatever the past decade has dealt you, don’t be afraid to reshuffle your deck!

 

 

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There is so much beauty in your life and though it may be hard to see it now, the storms will begin to clear and the sun will come out again! Take heart in knowing you aren’t alone in your troubles or fears and you’re truly blessed to wake to see another day. Yes, your life is probably sometimes a crazy mess, but in the end you will see all of your beautifully broken pieces mended together in a masterpiece!

 

 

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It’s okay to take time and just breathe. Just be in the moment and not worry about the things that need to get done. Take time to relax and recharge your batteries and indulge in self-care. Because that is so very important to making everything else fall into place.

 

 

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LIVE. CREATE. SPEAK. HUG. SMILE. HOPE. LAUGH. SEEK. INSPIRE. LOVE.

 

 

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Sometimes not getting what you want may seem disappointing in the beginning, but can turn out to be your biggest blessing in the end. Not all roads are meant to lead you to your final destination. So enjoy the detours along the way!

 

 

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Get your creativity flowing again and reignite your passion. Whether it be writing, drawing, painting, singing, etc. Today is your day and this is your sign! Get started!

 

 

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You got this, girl! There will be speed bumps along the way, but don’t let that stop you from pursuing your goals and making your dreams come true! Rome was not built in a day! Every time you quit and start over, you’re only delaying your own progress in life.

 

 

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Do something great today that your tomorrow self will thank you for!

 

 

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Thank your past self for the lessons learned and tell your future self you’re ready!

 

 

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Thinking outside the box is crucial. There is a reason they say old ways won’t open new doors. Don’t be afraid to shake it up a bit or even to reinvent yourself.

 

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I believe it! The question is, do you? And what are you willing to do to bring your dreams to fruition?

 

 

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Grab the bull by the horns and look the devil in the eyes and while you’re at it, punch today in the face! This is your time to shine and you will succeed because you’re crazy enough to think so! Let’s make it happen. I’m ready! Are you?

 

 

 “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.” —Neil Gaiman

The Lessons I Learned In 2019

The time has come to bid farewell to this year, and what a year it has been. So many wonderful and disastrous things happened almost seeming to go hand in hand. Alas, we have made it to the last few days of the year. Hallelujah!

 

As we get ready to raise our glass to ring in this New Year, take a moment to reflect on the lessons that 2019 taught you. Although, nothing is perfect or grand in life every single day, there is always something to be taken away from those less than ideal experiences.

 

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Earlier this year I lost my job and although it wasn’t heartbreaking in the least, there were still many lessons it taught me on who my true friends were and who only cared to take advantage of my kindness and generosity. I truly believe that if you learn something valuable and gain more respect for yourself in the process, then nothing was ever a waste of your time.

 

Wisdom comes from growth & growth is painful, but the outcome is always beautiful…

 

Fast forward a few months and I had the opportunity to accept a temporary job helping to serve my community. I was never one to believe that when one door closed another would open. That’s how doors work, right? However, great things happen sometimes when we least expect it. I am grateful for the friendships I made and the knowledge I gained which helped make it worth the sad parting goodbye as my contract came to a close this past week.

 

What can seem like a bitter year end is all in how you choose to look at it, and I choose to see the positive in my life every chance I can. This year has many of them.

 

I gained new friends to share laughs with and silly inside jokes.

I gained a new respect for our emergency first responders and the trauma they encounter on a daily basis.

I learned it’s okay when people walk out of your life, because it leaves room for better people to walk in.

I forgive myself more when I fall short and allow myself grace to improve in my weak areas.

I learned just because other people are bitter and spiteful doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I learned that when people say hurtful things that aren’t true about you that it shows their true character and not yours.

I learned to be okay with people not knowing my side of the story.

I learned that forgiving others is never for them, it is always for you.

I learned that not everyone is your friend and its okay to remove toxic people from your life.

I learned that not everyone is going to like me and to stop forcing things that aren’t meant to be.

I learned that some of the most unlikely people turn out to be the ones who care the most.

I learned that there are no shortcuts in life, but consistency will help get you there quicker.

I learned that if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen and not an excuse.

I learned that everyone falls short and there are no perfect people and that most of us are all in this life trying the very best we can.

 

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No matter what this year took you through, I pray you find peace in knowing that you are not alone and you are loved.

As I close this yearly chapter of my life and prepare for the next one, I realize that even though I have lost jobs, friendships and experienced heartache along the way, I am blessed to have woken up this morning and given the chance to be a better mother, wife and human being and that is priceless.

 

Tomorrow is never promised and today is a gift. Life is a journey and a roller coaster at that. So enjoy the ride and make the most of it!

 

Welcome 2020! Here’s to the next decade!

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The Summer Days of Motherhood

More like the summer daze of motherhood if we’re being honest.  The constant picking up of sopping wet clothes all over the bathroom floor, the constant in and out of the house and the endless snacks can definitely cause some major mommy head spins.

 

Then there are the “well meaning” people who are quick to remind you that you only get 18 summers with your kids so you better cherish even the worst of days. Don’t get me wrong, I totally do. It’s just really hard to do so in the moment of being sleep deprived and hearing your two youngest children yelling at the top of their lungs over some video game because one won’t follow the other around… Cry me a freaking river!

Kids today aren’t in love with the idea of playing long hours outside.. They need constant air conditioning and to tell you how tired they are every 5 minutes. Gone are the days of drinking water from the garden hose or having fun in a sprinkler and then air drying while you ride bikes as fast as you can. (Ahh, the good ole days)

So every chance I get to help my kids enjoy the sweet bliss of their childhood doing anything other than sitting in their rooms on their x-box’s, I’m game! (pun intended) Then there are days where I am drinking my 3rd coffee at noon begging for 5 minutes of quiet because I can’t form a single thought from all the chaos… And I know I am not alone!

 

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There is just something different about summertime. Something that inadvertently makes us moms feel like if we are not constantly doing something with our kids or making the 100th craft idea we saw on Pinterest…then we are failures! Sorry, but I’m not buying what you’re selling with thoughts like that. Let me tell you why…

Believe it or not – kids are simple and yours are, too!! Need proof? Okay! How many times when your children were little would they rather play with the box that the toy came in rather than the actual toy itself.. How many times have you ever heard a small child say this is the best day ever because you flagged down the ice cream truck. Kids are more simple than we realize.

We moms beat ourselves into the ground trying to make sure that our kids are having this grand and amazing childhood with all these expensive trips ( and yeah, they will love those, too ) but, chances are what they will remember most are the blanket forts you make or the silly traditional things that only your family does.

 

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We need to stop driving ourselves crazy and take some time to relax this summer, too. Let the kids enjoy the water or let them play one extra game. The most important thing is that everyone is having fun. That includes us as well.

 

So pour yourself a 3rd or 4th coffee and take a moment to soak in the brief truce made between your kids before the next fight breaks loose. Summer only lasts a season even though it feels like eternity. School is just around the corner, so don’t forget to update your back to school countdown.. One more day down and don’t kid yourself to think that we aren’t counting them down.

 

 

 

Until next time my beautiful mommies – stay safe, cool and blessed this summer!!

Practical Tips for Thriving as an Introverted Mom

I have been a mother for nearly 12 years and I have learned so much about myself during these years. However, I have always known that I was introverted. That was never a doubt or question in my mind. Raising my three children (who each have their own unique personality – a mix of future introverts & extroverts) has been extremely enlightening on so many levels.

 

I grew up being the quiet child that was labeled as shy or weird. I would watch as most of the other children would go on about their day without a care in the world. Laughing as loudly as they wanted without fear of looking silly or obnoxious.

Being an introverted person is different for every introvert and how they interact with the world is just as unique. However, being an introverted mom/parent can be even more challenging to maneuver in today’s society. I don’t mind being introverted. It’s where I draw most of my strength on my ability to inwardly think and process without the disruption of the outside world.

Before I share with you what has worked for me, I’d like to acknowledge that being a mother is wonderful, hard and a never ending learning experience. It doesn’t take away anything from being a mom whether you’re an introverted or extroverted mom.

 

Whether you are outgoing or more reserved and laid back, moms are constantly being judged no matter where we turn or what we do. I won’t go into detail, but let’s just say we are judged on literally everything! With a fine tooth comb – no less. But, why? No one is perfect and introverts understand this probably better than the rest because we are outside of the box thinkers, dreamers and we can understand and appreciate everyone’s uniqueness, gifts & abilities.

 

 

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PLAN & EXECUTE YOUR QUIET TIME –   It is so very important as a mom to have time to yourself. We are so busy raising the next generation that we forget we are still living ourselves. On top of that, there is the nagging guilt that if we do take time for ourselves we are somehow not doing our job as a mother of always putting our child first.

Just remember that it is impossible to pour out anything from an empty cup. This tip is “plan & execute” for a reason. Because as mom’s we are so quick to “plan” on taking time for ourselves that we forget to actually “execute” that plan and make it happen.

So, take that time for yourself momma. Go grab some coffee and enjoy a quiet trip in the car or crank up those tunes. Take a long hot bubble bath or read a good book in silence. Just remember to relax. Not think about what you should/could be doing or what are the kids doing… They are being kids and to be brutally honest, they are probably not even thinking about you.. So fill your cup momma! Your kids will benefit from a freshly renewed and relaxed mom, and so will you!

 

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UNDERSTAND YOUR LIMITS –   Don’t let anyone make you feel bad because you’re not constantly running up and down the road taking your child from one fun new adventure to the next. Understanding your limits will help you avoid mommy burnout and more than likely your child will appreciate it as well. Kids need rest, too!

It’s okay to simply enjoy each others company and talk and be silly without the need to compare how someone else is raising their kids or maybe you should be more “fun”…

No! Stop it! You are a fun mom. You are amazing. You do awesome things with your kids and you do them on terms and times when you know you’re able and what’s best for your family! 

It’s important to know your limits in life and when to take a break and when to push on further. Once you have a grasp on that and don’t let the voices of others influence you, you will be much happier.

 

 

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LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU’RE AMAZING –   You’re not perfect. No one is. So, love yourself! So what if you’re a little awkward or shy or don’t want to be the center of attention. You’re still amazing and you have so many wonderful gifts to share with your family and the world. And in your own time when you choose to do so.

Forgive yourself when you fall short or when you try too hard to be a perfectionist. Understand that your flaws are what make you so unique and embrace them completely.

Everyone learns things and copes with things differently. Being an introvert just means that you’re going to do things  differently than other’s. It doesn’t mean you’re doing them wrong or not good enough. You just do things to the beat of your own drum and that’s pretty awesome to me.

Don’t be afraid to stand out and be different. Don’t be afraid to try again when you fall. Each gift, talent and unique ability that you possess is what makes you amazing! Use those every day and you will not only be a better mother for it, but you will be a better person for it. It’s a beautiful thing when you can inspire someone else to let their own unique flame burn bright for the world to see.

 

 

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STOP OVERTHINKING EVERYTHING –   This should be interesting considering that introverts are naturally introspective and in-tune with ourselves. Which means we are often times more prone to overthinking. We seem to know when something is wrong with us even if we can’t pin point exactly what it might be.

We know these things because we have spent so much time thinking over each little detail time and time again. But, sometimes we benefit far more from things and certain situations if we just stop overthinking them.

It’s a hard feat to ask, especially from introspective people. Just think of it as learning something new, because who doesn’t like new things? Call it an experiment or whatever it is that you need to do to take your mind off overthinking things from motherhood, friendships, work or home… Just let it go and simply be in the moment. It’s okay!

 

 

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UNPLUG THE WHOLE FAMILY –    Whether your kids are too small to know what technology is or if you have teenagers whose smartphone has grown into a 6th finger on their hands… Make time for the whole family to unplug and spend some beneficial time together.

It can be so easy to let them play a video game so you can have a moment to yourself and trust me, I am not saying don’t do that. I do that plenty. But, there are times when everyone needs to come together as a family and actually interact with each other… (Cue every teenagers eye rolls…)

Social media and technology today has made some incredible breakthroughs, but it does come at a cost to how we interact with people. Especially how we interact with our family and friends. It’s easier now than ever to be so close to someone and yet so distant. To get wrapped up in comparison or the mindless scrolling and we forget that life isn’t on our smartphone. It is what is happening around us while we are busy looking at our phones.

So, get unplugged and start enjoying the things in life that really matters. Your family, friends and the precious time that you are blessed to be able to spend with them. You would be surprised at just how much time you waste (yes, waste!) on social media… It can be fun and sometimes rewarding to engage with technology. Just don’t forget to live your life!

 

 


 

As an introverted mom, I understand life’s challenges and the uphill battle that is sometimes unavoidable. However, I know how rewarding it can be to embrace who you are and the amazing things life has to offer once you’re comfortable in your own skin. Your spouse, kids, friends and most importantly you will benefit so much more by simply being yourself. Introverted or Extroverted or simply somewhere in between, we are all uniquely wonderful with truly amazing gifts and abilities to share with the world. Are you ready?

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

30 Life Lessons I Learned By 30

I turn 30 in three weeks from today and boy have I learned a lot of things in these (almost) 30 years! Mostly, lessons learned the hard way. Is there any other way? (((sigh)))

 

I can tell you though that many of these lessons often came with huge beneficial gains for me mentally, physically and spiritually. Yet, sadly, sometimes it took learning some hard lessons more than once to really grasp the calamity of it all.

However, as I am quickly approaching thirty and getting ready to leave my twenties behind, I find it’s the perfect opportunity to reflect on who I am as a person and just how far I have come from that young woman who entered into her twenties a decade ago.

 

So many lessons learned over these past three decades that I have been blessed to be alive, but in the spirit of “30”, here are thirty life lessons that really made a difference in who I am today and might help you going through something similar at your current stage in life.

 

 

1.) It’s okay to say no  – Those who truly respect and love you will understand.

2.) Get to know the real you – Take time to get to know who you really are. What are your likes, dislikes, goals, dreams. Not just what everyone else is doing. You do you! Trust me, it will pay off!

3.) You cannot make everyone happy – Trying to do so will only bring yourself misery. Not everyone will like you. They aren’t supposed to, and that’s okay!

4.) Having boundaries does not make you bad – It’s quite healthy and necessary and those who have issues with your boundaries do not respect you.

5.) Stand up for yourself – No one else can do it for you and if it costs you certain friendships, jobs or opportunities, then they weren’t worth your peace or your time to begin with.

6.) Forgive others – It’s not for them anyways, its for you and your peace!

7.) Don’t participate in toxic relationships – People will only treat you to the extent of how far you allow them. True friendships and relationships are mutually funded.

8.) Perfection does not exist – Trying to keep up with the Jones’s will only be a waste of your own good life. No one is perfect!

9.) True happiness is not found in material things – Having a nice house and a flashy car is wonderful, but don’t let your self-worth get wrapped up in what big or small material items that you do or do not possess.

10.) Change is inevitable – You can either embrace it or fight it, but change will come regardless and sometimes it can be a beautiful thing!

 

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11.) Be the bigger person – You cannot make everyone see your side of things or your perspective, whether right or wrong. Make peace with it and move on.

12.) Everyone makes mistakes – It’s part of life to make mistakes, but learning from them is a choice.

13.) Invest in your skin – Sure, a tan looks great, but healthy skin looks better! Invest in a proper day and night skin care regimen and your body will thank you for it.

14.) Diet & exercise do matter – Never underestimate how important diet and exercise can be for your health. Although, great for your body, it’s also beneficial to your mind.

15.) Sleep, sleep, sleep – As a life long insomniac this has been a hard lesson for me. Sleep is one of the most crucially important tools in your life and also one of which that controls many more mental and physical functions to boot. So, get that rest! Zzzzz…

16.) Knowledge is power – I say this with absolute humble intention. Reading is not something to do when you’re “bored”. Learning is crucial to your mental development. You’re never too old to learn something new. Now, get out there and explore!

17.) Do not conform – You were born to stand out with your own unique talents. Embrace them! Show your gifts to the world and inspire others to do the same.

18.) Not everyone is your friend – Not everyone who says they’re your friend is truly your friend. Some people seek only to bring you down to elevate themselves and weeding them out can sometimes be a heartbreaking but necessary experience in life.

19.) You cannot control everything –  Go ahead and give up that fantasy notion on being able to control every outcome. Learning to accept things in life especially difficult things is a hard but necessary life experience that everyone has to go through. Take what you learned from that experience and use it to your advantage the next time you’re approached with a similar opportunity and you will be all the wiser for it.

20.) Enjoy the little/simple things in life – It really is those simple moments in life that you will look back on and remember. Not that expensive purchase you made or that big promotion. It’s almost always a special dinner reservation with your significant other or family member. Or a simple and totally unexpected gift you will always cherish not because of its monetary worth, but the intrinsic value in which it holds! No one has ever been able to put a price on something I hold dear with sentimental value.

 

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21.) Stop planning and just do itAnother hard lesson for me being the natural planner that I am and my love to make a map and list for everything, is just do it! Sometimes you simply can’t plan for everything and coming to terms with this can eliminate your need for control and devastation when the outcome isn’t as you expected. Life is passing you by minute by minute, make the most of it and just do it!

22.) Make peace with your past – Everyone has a past and everyone has things in their past that they may not be particularly proud of. Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. You had to have lived what you did in order to know what you do now.

23.) Laugh every chance you get – Life is too short to be anything less than happy. Laugh as often as you can. Experience the silly and free side of life. It costs nothing to laugh and its good for your soul.

24.) Take pictures, but don’t forget to live in the moment – It’s important for me as a mother to capture pictures and video of my children every chance I get. Literally to the point of them thinking, oh my gosh another picture. It’s also equally important for you to be a part of those memories with your children or friends and family. So snap your pic if you must, but then join the fun!

25.) True character always reveals itself – People will always show you who they really are. Just pay attention to how they treat you or respond to you. If they’re always tearing you down to lift their own ego or agenda, then they’re toxic and need to go!

26.) Respect is earned –  This may conflict with some peoples standards, but for me respect is earned. I will respect someones good heart and hard work in life, but to truly respect someone is more than just a word. It’s also a mutually invested concept and feeling. Example: Would you automatically respect someone who held no regard or respect for you? Of course not! My point exactly. Respect. Is. Earned.

27.) Take the risk and go for it – Apply for that job you’ve always wanted or better yet become your own boss if that’s your dream. You will never get anywhere in life if you just sit on the sidelines doing nothing and being scared of what could go wrong. Go for it!

28.) Be yourself –  Be the true authentic version of yourself. Let others get to know the fun, quirky, creative and amazing person that you are. Those flaws that you may be so insecure over may inspire others to have the needed confidence to reach out and inspire someone else as well. Be yourself! Everyone else is already taken. You are the only you and that is your power!

29.) Don’t take criticism to heart – Especially from those who mean it to harm you or try and belittle you. The issue doesn’t lie with you, it’s their insecurities they need to deal with. Show them kindness and compassion and do not respond with ill intentions. Throwing gas on a fire has never solved anything. Take the high road!

30.) Do accept constructive criticism from the wise – It took me many years of having to do things “my way” and failing over and over before realizing that there are some people who truly have your best interest at heart and have only good intentions with helping you by sharing their wisdom and insight on lessons they too learned after many failed attempts in their own lives.

 

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I hope this list helps you in some way and I would love to hear what life lesson’s you have learned. The good and bad…Leave a comment or send me an email!

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How To Stay Focused & Slay Your Goals

Let’s be 100% real for a minute….Time management is an extremely crucial quality to have, and it is really simple to acquire if your goal is truly important to you!

 

Yes, sometimes things are out of our control completely and it makes it impossible for us to get everything (or maybe even just a couple of things) done that we planned to do. Ugh, I know the struggle!

I am a perfectionist to a fault. Meaning that it is both simultaneously my biggest strength and my greatest weakness. Yes, it will be correct! But, it may be delayed because I will go over and over it again with a fine tooth comb until I am completely satisfied with it.

It isn’t because I think I may have done it wrong, it’s because I am trying to do it better. I am constantly trying to improve on something that I haven’t even “finished” to begin with. Can you relate?

As funny and infuriating that this is to me on a daily basis, I have found certain things that help with focusing while allowing me to complete the task at hand quicker and with less distractions.

 

Procrastination & Time Management are two things that never work well together!

 

I often find myself reluctant to begin something simply because I know the amount of pressure that I put on myself with trying to perfect it along the way. So the task becomes paralyzing while I contemplate and overanalyze the infinite amount of ways to complete something, while at the same time sorting through potential solutions to figurative problems to begin with. Sounds crazy, right?  It’s mentally and physically exhausting! And I know I’m not alone!

 

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Here are a few steps that I have found help me to stay focused and slay my goals! 

 

1.) Make A List – A simple list. Lets not overcomplicate things by going into too much detail here. Just a simple list of the things you need to do to prevent yourself from becoming overwhelmed by trying to multi-task on too many things. Lists create visual accountability and help create a solution for that annoying problematic feeling of  “What was I doing again? or  “What did I need to be doing?”

Stress happens when you become overwhelmed by trying to do too many things at once.

Lists will prevent this! If you stick with them!

Multi-tasking is something that automatically happens when you get in a situation where you need to do two things at once. Most of the time, this is a relatively easy thing to do. For example, talking on the phone while loading the dishwasher or being able to answer calls and take notes. There are times when multi-tasking is nearly impossible for anyone. (If you say it isn’t, I’d love to watch you listen to two different people tell you two different stories while you simultaneously write down both stories accurately.) It can be impossible. So, prioritizing is imperative…

 

2.) Do NOT Overcommit!  – As a reformed people pleaser my entire life, I realize the difficulty this step will bring. Will people hate me because I said no? Will they no longer want to be my friend because I last minute backed out of something for my mental health? Will saying no to adding on another task to my plate make my peers think I am not capable of performing my duties to the best of my ability. The answer to all of these questions and many more is a resounding, NO! On the contrary, taking on too many things at once can be counterproductive and cause more problems in the long run.

Other peoples annoyed perspective of you saying no by not wanting to add more stress on yourself and trying to maintain a healthy mental and physical balance in your life, is not your problem. Frankly, it’s theirs and to their detriment…their loss!!

Making sure you keep your plate in life balanced and not overwhelmed is key in being able to  keep things flowing properly. (Checkout this video Netflix – Dead to Me “Saying No” and watch how empowering it is to say NO to shit that you don’t want to do or just can’t mentally or physically allow yourself to take on!)

Saying no does not make you a bad person! And if those people truly care about you then they will understand.

 

3. Just DO IT! – My least favorite of all, just do it! Why is it my least favorite you ask? Because it calls me out on my BS and forces me to get off the couch and make it happen! You are and always will be your biggest accountability partner. There are no shortcuts to success or no magic pill to lose that extra weight. You have to do it yourself! You have to get up and make it happen! Rain or Shine!

You are your biggest supporter and your worst critic!

The only way to reach your goals is simply by starting! One. Little. Step. And it will add up to your finished goal and you will feel so incredibly proud of yourself. But, it starts by taking that first step. Have you ever noticed how awesome you feel after you finish doing something that you weren’t particularly thrilled about getting up and doing in the first place? Take that past feeling of accomplishment and use it as the needed fuel to take on this next task! You can do it! And I will promise you that it will be worth it!

You are capable of achieving great things in life if you truly believe you can and are willing to put in the long hours and the hard work to make it happen!

 

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Here are some simple items that I always keep in my home office space for a little mood pick-me-up that makes my inspiration vibes thrive:

 

1.) My organizer/planner – I have used Erin Condren planners for years & love them!

2.) Cute pens – They really do help inspire you to write and create those lists!

3.) Colorful highlighters – What better way to add color and happiness to those lists?!

4.) Scented hand lotion – Currently alternating the stress relief and focus lotion from BBW.  So relaxing!

5.) Message board or chalkboard – Keep inspiration everywhere in your life!

6.) Candle or wax warmer – I love it when my room smells fresh and inviting!

7.) My favorite book – Whatever inspirational book that I’m reading at the time.

8.) Mints/Gum – Silly, but effective! Try it!

 

 

At the end of the day, you and only you truly know what works best for you. Because only you know what is holding you back. Too much social media? Too much TV? Whatever your time sucking vice is, it can be beat and you can slay your goals!

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

19 Affirmations & Inspiration For Your Weight Loss Journey

One of the things I have personally struggled with over the years after having my three children, is my weight. Stress has been playing a huge role in my life recently with so many things pulling me in different directions, so maintaining a healthy lifestyle with diet and exercise has been an uphill battle. If you’re like me, then you’ve probably already combed the entire internet looking for every miracle/fad diet and quick fix, too! But, they don’t exist!

So for me, I like to read affirmations for inspiration and motivation. Not that the scale doesn’t provide enough of that…and if that doesn’t do the trick, the mommy muffin top surely does! But, still, I find them highly encouraging and very helpful. However, when it all boils down, you still have to put in the work and change your eating habits!

Strive for a healthy lifestyle, not “dieting”… Then you will start seeing real results that will last!! I’m right there with you!! Let’s do this!!

 

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Here are 19 of my Favorite Affirmations for Weight Loss Inspiration! 🙂

 

1.) I am determined, I am fearless, I am disciplined!

2.) I am flexible and willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish my goals!

3.) I believe I have it in me!

4.) My success is for certain!

5.) I am strong, I am powerful, I am unstoppable!

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6.) I commit today to do what it takes to succeed and take responsibility for where I am!

7.) There are no limits to what I can achieve! 

8.) I am strong in mind and body!

9.) Every day I move closer to my goal!

10.) I am healthy and full of energy!

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11.) I am patient with my mind and body!

12.) I will think positive and surround myself with positive energy!

13.) I feel energetic and full of life!

14.) I am successful in whatever I do!

15.) I am proud of myself and my accomplishments, no matter how small!

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16.) I am a perpetual generator of positive energy!

17.) I move in the directions of my goals!

18.) My abilities to conquer my challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite!

19.) I am proud of myself!

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50 Inspirational Quotes for Mother’s

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As a mother of three, I know that being a parent is hard. It will take everything you have and then demand for more. Day in and day out you rise to take care of these beautiful souls you have brought into this world.

Their needs and wants fill your head all day until you begin to wonder if you have any thoughts of your own. They argue with their siblings and make messes left and right. You plead for quiet and calm and they respond with loud and chaos.

You begin to question your sanity and wonder if you can make it 5 more minutes without totally losing it. Then it happens. Bedtime has arrived. You tuck them into bed, kiss their heads, tell them you love them and wish them sweet dreams.

I see you there now, gathering your wary thoughts in silence and recapping your day. Wondering if you did everything right as a mother. Did you spend enough time with them? Lose your cool too much? Are you screwing this parenting thing up?

 

Every mother wonders these things. You are not alone! 

 

You check on your sleeping children and wonder how such calm and precious little faces can be so loud and demanding. They are so peaceful and sweet while they dream. It’s hard to believe hours before they were up running through the house screaming at their siblings and asking for their 50th snack of the day.

 

I’m here to tell you, you’re doing an amazing job! You’re wonderful, appreciated and loved. They may not see all that you do for them now, but one day they will look back and see that you always had their back. No matter what! You were there for them, cheering them on at school events, helping with homework and encouraging their dreams.

 

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Here are 50 Inspirational Quotes to remind you that you are an amazing mother and your irreplaceable love is one of a kind. ♥

 

1.) “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.” ―Agatha Christie

2.) There will be so many times you feel like you’ve failed. But in the eyes, heart, and mind of your child, you are super mom.  -Author Unknown

3.) “Finding balance as a mother means accepting your imperfections.” – Mary Organizes

4.) “A mothers’ joy begins when new life is stirring inside…when a tiny heartbeat is heard for the first time, and a playful kick reminds her that she is never alone.” -Author Unknown

5.) “A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for.” -Anonymous

6.) “No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.” -Edwin Hubbell Chapin

7.) “A mother is someone who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.” -Unknown Author

8.) “There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.” -Jill Churchill

9.) “All mothers are working mothers.” -Author Unknown

10.) “Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” -Robert Browning

 

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11.) “Behind every great child is a mom who’s pretty sure she’s screwing it all up.” -Author Unknown

12.) “Motherhood has relaxed me in many ways. You learn to deal with crisis. I’ve become a juggler, I suppose. It’s all a big circus, and nobody who knows me believes I can manage, but sometimes I do.” -Jane Seymour

13.) “Motherhood is wonderful, but it’s also hard work. It’s the logistics more than anything. You discover you have reserves of energy you didn’t know you had.” -Deborah Mailman

14.) “Most mothers are instinctive philosophers.” -Harriet Beecher Stowe

15.) “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.” -Gail Tsukiyama

16.) “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.” -Princess Diana

17.) “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” -W.R. Wallace

18.) “The fastest way to break the cycle of perfectionism and become a fearless mother is to give up the idea of doing it perfectly—indeed to embrace uncertainty and imperfection.” -Arianna Huffington

19.) “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.” -Sharon Jaynes

20.) “Motherhood is a choice you make every day, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.” -Donna Ball

 

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21.) “In the end…I am the only one who can give my children a happy mother who loves life.” -Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard

22.) “I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one of the greatest spiritual teachers there is.” – Oprah

23.) “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” – Marion C. Garretty

24.) “Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” – Barbara Kingsolver

25.) “One of the greatest titles in the world is parent, and one of the biggest blessings in the world is to have parents to call mom and dad.” -Jim DeMint

26.) “The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” -Honore de Balzac

27.) “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”  -Ricki Lake

28.) “The best part of being a mom to me is the unconditional love. I have never felt a love as pure, a love that’s as rewarding.” -Monica Denise Brown

29.) “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.” -Meryl Streep

30.) “Mothers are all slightly insane.” -J. D. Salinger

 

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31.) “Moms are life’s number one cheerleaders without uniforms.” -Richelle E. Goodrich

32.) “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” -Washington Irving

33.) “The phrase ‘working mother’ is redundant.” -Jane Sellman

34.) “Youth fades; love droops; the leaves of friendship fall; A mother’s secret hope out lives them all.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

35.)  “A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” -Victor Hugo

36.) “She raised us with humor, and she raised us to understand that not everything was going to be great—but how to laugh through it.” -Liza Minnelli

37.) “Love as powerful as your mother’s for you leaves its own mark … to have been loved so deeply .. will give us some protection forever.” -J.K. Rowling

38.) “Whatever else is unsure in this stinking dunghill of a world a mother’s love is not.” -James Joyce

39.)  “Being a mom has made me so tired. And so happy.” -Tina Fey

40.) “I think every working mom probably feels the same thing: You go through big chunks of time where you’re just thinking, ‘This is impossible — oh, this is impossible.’ And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible.” -Tina Fey

 

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41.) “I see myself as mom first. I’m so lucky to have that role in life. The world can like me, hate me or fall apart around me and at least I wake up with my kids and I’m happy.” -Angelina Jolie

42.) “You sacrificed for us. You’re the real MVP.” -Kevin Durant

43.) “There’s something that just happens to you when you have a baby, and you look at their little eyes for the first time when you’re holding them. They’ve been safe inside your belly for almost 10 months, and now they’re in your arms. Intuition kicks in, where you will do anything for them and you have all the tools inside of you to take care of them.” -Hilary Duff

44.) “If I’ve learned anything as a mom with a daughter who’s three, I’ve learned that you cannot judge the way another person is raising their kid. Everybody is just doing the best they can. It’s hard to be a mom.” -Maggie Gyllenhaal

45.) “There’s no such thing as a supermom. We just do the best we can.” -Sarah Michelle Gellar

46.) “A mother understands what a child does not say.” -Jewish Proverb

47.) “A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories.” -Honore de Balzac

48.) “Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” -Charles R. Swindoll

49.) “To a child’s ear, “mother” is magic in any language.” –Arlene Benedict

50.) “Mother’s love is peace.  It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.” –Erich Fromm