7 Sanity Saving Tips for Busy Moms in 2020

Do you ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels and never getting anywhere? You’re not alone! As a busy mom of 3 very active children (One of which is entering her first melodramatic teenage year) I fully understand how we can constantly rush and rush, yet never really achieve what we set out to do each day.

 

Not that anyone really notices, but we sure as hell bust our ass every day doing the little trivial things that if we did not get done, then the whole shit show would fall apart anyways. Do you see our dilemma? We are constantly running in circles barely getting traction while tiring ourselves out and it needs to stop!

 

Let’s make this our year to finally get our family life organized and I truly believe it’s possible with some much needed tweaks along the way. Although, I can maybe see hoarding a larger quantity of coffee & dry shampoo while we adjust to some things. (Just my personal tip) Although it may not seem doable most days, it’s still a possibility and I’m running with it…like a toddler trying to escape nap time. We got this!

 

I have put together a list of some crucial steps that must take place before we can get this “show to the production line” in 2020 and finally have productive and successful days as busy moms!

 

1. We must start our day as well rested as possible I understand wanting to stay up the night before indulging in every second of silence that we can…believe me, I do! But we are setting ourselves up for complete and utter failure by not resting our minds. Coffee is magical, but not that good! Sleep is vital to this whole operation. With little ones getting sleep can be difficult if not impossible. Incorporate help from family or friends to watch your little bundle of joy so you can catch some much needed Zzzz’s.

 

2. Give yourself time to get ready for the day FIRST Whether it’s having 30 minutes of silence to enjoy a cup of coffee while the sun rises, or brushing your hair and applying your makeup without having to rush and ultimately stabbing yourself with the mascara wand. Set your alarm to wake you early and allow yourself some extra time to set the tone of your day in a peaceful way. It actually does work very well with step #1!

 

3. Don’t snap at the first sign of struggle Kids will be kids and they seem to come programmed knowing exactly what buttons to push to trigger your last nerve. So set the morning vibes and don’t back down when the trouble or inevitable bickering amongst siblings starts to ensue. Be strong, Mama! You got this.

 

4. Sometimes we need to go with the flow Just as important as it is to not snap at the first sign of struggle, it’s also very important to learn to just go with the flow of things. “Picking your battles” is a very real thing with Motherhood. It allows you to not stress yourself out over every little mess or shout (even if you really want to react) it’s best to just pick your battles and go with the flow. You and your children will be much happier for it.

 

5. Have a routine set in place for the whole family By having a routine set in place, you can help eliminate confusion or too many options for things to not get taken care of. (Example: Have your children clean their plates/bowls from the table after finishing breakfast. Have them lay out their school clothes the night before school to avoid rushing in the mornings. Likewise, lay out your work clothes the night before and enjoy that extra time in the mornings. Sit your trash can out the night before it runs…this is a huge sanity saver! Taking some time to plan and establish a routine of getting things in place will definitely save you and your whole family the headache when time runs short and you will all be glad you did.

 

6. Understand that things will not always go as planned Even if you plan everything out and have it all done the night before, things can and still do go wrong. Your child wakes up sick and throws up on the way out the door on the morning of your business meeting. Your child tells you the morning of their science project being due that they “forgot” to tell you about. You spill coffee on your brand new outfit, you forget your wallet at home, someone cuts you off in the parking lot stealing your spot and now you have to circle it 27 more times. Life happens and it gives us plenty of opportunities to scream and curse the skies, but we can choose not to. Not that I always take the high road in that department, I am however realizing that taking the high road isn’t just for other people, it’s more importantly for me and my inner peace.

 

7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow There will be days where things are going to go smooth and you snap anyways. You have a moment of weakness and simply snap in the middle of your child starting his story over again for the 89th time because he left out yet another small detail. You’ll feel horrible because of it and ask for forgiveness and of course they forgive you, but ultimately you have to forgive yourself, too. We are all human and most of us try the very best we can to do right by other people in hopes they do the same for us. But, at the end of the day all you can control is how you react and respond and what you’re willing to do different the next time the opportunity presents itself. You are not a failure simply because you fail at something. The world is full of great people who have failed more times than I have even attempted something, but they would never have gotten to where they are if they accepted the mindset of failure. Forgive yourself for your short comings (because we all have them) and pick yourself up and try again tomorrow.

 

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As I always say, life is a journey and a roller coaster one at that. With each high and low comes the same gift, a lesson. Experience in something we gained as a result of having gone through it. Whether good or bad, we are stronger because of it.

Choose to accept that every day is going to have its own set of challenges with ups & downs. As long as you’re doing your part in minimizing the chances of things going crazy by planning, having a routine, remaining calm and going with the flow of things so when life throws you a curve ball (as it will) you can forgive yourself for reacting poorly in the moment of a tough situation and try again tomorrow.

Allow yourself grace and understanding that better days are coming and you will get through all of the tough days just like you have gotten through all of them before that you could not see a way out of or an end in sight. You’re stronger and more capable than you think and you totally got this!

 

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

 

 

Inspiration for the New Year (and Decade)

Cheer’s to the New Year & Decade! May it be your BEST one yet!

 

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No matter where you are today or what you may be thinking, today symbolizes a fresh new start and opportunity. Today is the FIRST Monday of not only the year, but of the new decade! We could sit and grumble over the fact that it’s “Monday”, but let’s face it…we all need to look outside of the box from time to time and see things from another perspective. I’m here to offer just that and a bit of inspiration to boot!

 

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Whether you’re smashing your new year goals so far without the slightest bit of hesitation or grimace or you’re in serious need of a pick-me-up and ready to throw in the towel. You’re not alone!

 

Everyone has their own specific and personal goals in mind for what they’re bringing to this new chapter in their life and once again (the new decade). Hey, that’s pretty exciting stuff and you should be excited about it, too!

If there is one thing I love, it is to bring inspiration and cheer to others. No, I may not be able to say that I have walked in your shoes or felt what you’ve felt, but empathy is not lost on me and I, too, have had my share of grief in this life.

 

So cheer up, Momma!  You’re going to kick ass in this new season of your life & make your dreams come true!

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Whatever the past decade has dealt you, don’t be afraid to reshuffle your deck!

 

 

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There is so much beauty in your life and though it may be hard to see it now, the storms will begin to clear and the sun will come out again! Take heart in knowing you aren’t alone in your troubles or fears and you’re truly blessed to wake to see another day. Yes, your life is probably sometimes a crazy mess, but in the end you will see all of your beautifully broken pieces mended together in a masterpiece!

 

 

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It’s okay to take time and just breathe. Just be in the moment and not worry about the things that need to get done. Take time to relax and recharge your batteries and indulge in self-care. Because that is so very important to making everything else fall into place.

 

 

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LIVE. CREATE. SPEAK. HUG. SMILE. HOPE. LAUGH. SEEK. INSPIRE. LOVE.

 

 

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Sometimes not getting what you want may seem disappointing in the beginning, but can turn out to be your biggest blessing in the end. Not all roads are meant to lead you to your final destination. So enjoy the detours along the way!

 

 

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Get your creativity flowing again and reignite your passion. Whether it be writing, drawing, painting, singing, etc. Today is your day and this is your sign! Get started!

 

 

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You got this, girl! There will be speed bumps along the way, but don’t let that stop you from pursuing your goals and making your dreams come true! Rome was not built in a day! Every time you quit and start over, you’re only delaying your own progress in life.

 

 

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Do something great today that your tomorrow self will thank you for!

 

 

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Thank your past self for the lessons learned and tell your future self you’re ready!

 

 

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Thinking outside the box is crucial. There is a reason they say old ways won’t open new doors. Don’t be afraid to shake it up a bit or even to reinvent yourself.

 

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I believe it! The question is, do you? And what are you willing to do to bring your dreams to fruition?

 

 

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Grab the bull by the horns and look the devil in the eyes and while you’re at it, punch today in the face! This is your time to shine and you will succeed because you’re crazy enough to think so! Let’s make it happen. I’m ready! Are you?

 

 

 “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.” —Neil Gaiman

The Lessons I Learned In 2019

The time has come to bid farewell to this year, and what a year it has been. So many wonderful and disastrous things happened almost seeming to go hand in hand. Alas, we have made it to the last few days of the year. Hallelujah!

 

As we get ready to raise our glass to ring in this New Year, take a moment to reflect on the lessons that 2019 taught you. Although, nothing is perfect or grand in life every single day, there is always something to be taken away from those less than ideal experiences.

 

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Earlier this year I lost my job and although it wasn’t heartbreaking in the least, there were still many lessons it taught me on who my true friends were and who only cared to take advantage of my kindness and generosity. I truly believe that if you learn something valuable and gain more respect for yourself in the process, then nothing was ever a waste of your time.

 

Wisdom comes from growth & growth is painful, but the outcome is always beautiful…

 

Fast forward a few months and I had the opportunity to accept a temporary job helping to serve my community. I was never one to believe that when one door closed another would open. That’s how doors work, right? However, great things happen sometimes when we least expect it. I am grateful for the friendships I made and the knowledge I gained which helped make it worth the sad parting goodbye as my contract came to a close this past week.

 

What can seem like a bitter year end is all in how you choose to look at it, and I choose to see the positive in my life every chance I can. This year has many of them.

 

I gained new friends to share laughs with and silly inside jokes.

I gained a new respect for our emergency first responders and the trauma they encounter on a daily basis.

I learned it’s okay when people walk out of your life, because it leaves room for better people to walk in.

I forgive myself more when I fall short and allow myself grace to improve in my weak areas.

I learned just because other people are bitter and spiteful doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I learned that when people say hurtful things that aren’t true about you that it shows their true character and not yours.

I learned to be okay with people not knowing my side of the story.

I learned that forgiving others is never for them, it is always for you.

I learned that not everyone is your friend and its okay to remove toxic people from your life.

I learned that not everyone is going to like me and to stop forcing things that aren’t meant to be.

I learned that some of the most unlikely people turn out to be the ones who care the most.

I learned that there are no shortcuts in life, but consistency will help get you there quicker.

I learned that if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen and not an excuse.

I learned that everyone falls short and there are no perfect people and that most of us are all in this life trying the very best we can.

 

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No matter what this year took you through, I pray you find peace in knowing that you are not alone and you are loved.

As I close this yearly chapter of my life and prepare for the next one, I realize that even though I have lost jobs, friendships and experienced heartache along the way, I am blessed to have woken up this morning and given the chance to be a better mother, wife and human being and that is priceless.

 

Tomorrow is never promised and today is a gift. Life is a journey and a roller coaster at that. So enjoy the ride and make the most of it!

 

Welcome 2020! Here’s to the next decade!

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Practical Tips for Thriving as an Introverted Mom

I have been a mother for nearly 12 years and I have learned so much about myself during these years. However, I have always known that I was introverted. That was never a doubt or question in my mind. Raising my three children (who each have their own unique personality – a mix of future introverts & extroverts) has been extremely enlightening on so many levels.

 

I grew up being the quiet child that was labeled as shy or weird. I would watch as most of the other children would go on about their day without a care in the world. Laughing as loudly as they wanted without fear of looking silly or obnoxious.

Being an introverted person is different for every introvert and how they interact with the world is just as unique. However, being an introverted mom/parent can be even more challenging to maneuver in today’s society. I don’t mind being introverted. It’s where I draw most of my strength on my ability to inwardly think and process without the disruption of the outside world.

Before I share with you what has worked for me, I’d like to acknowledge that being a mother is wonderful, hard and a never ending learning experience. It doesn’t take away anything from being a mom whether you’re an introverted or extroverted mom.

 

Whether you are outgoing or more reserved and laid back, moms are constantly being judged no matter where we turn or what we do. I won’t go into detail, but let’s just say we are judged on literally everything! With a fine tooth comb – no less. But, why? No one is perfect and introverts understand this probably better than the rest because we are outside of the box thinkers, dreamers and we can understand and appreciate everyone’s uniqueness, gifts & abilities.

 

 

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PLAN & EXECUTE YOUR QUIET TIME –   It is so very important as a mom to have time to yourself. We are so busy raising the next generation that we forget we are still living ourselves. On top of that, there is the nagging guilt that if we do take time for ourselves we are somehow not doing our job as a mother of always putting our child first.

Just remember that it is impossible to pour out anything from an empty cup. This tip is “plan & execute” for a reason. Because as mom’s we are so quick to “plan” on taking time for ourselves that we forget to actually “execute” that plan and make it happen.

So, take that time for yourself momma. Go grab some coffee and enjoy a quiet trip in the car or crank up those tunes. Take a long hot bubble bath or read a good book in silence. Just remember to relax. Not think about what you should/could be doing or what are the kids doing… They are being kids and to be brutally honest, they are probably not even thinking about you.. So fill your cup momma! Your kids will benefit from a freshly renewed and relaxed mom, and so will you!

 

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UNDERSTAND YOUR LIMITS –   Don’t let anyone make you feel bad because you’re not constantly running up and down the road taking your child from one fun new adventure to the next. Understanding your limits will help you avoid mommy burnout and more than likely your child will appreciate it as well. Kids need rest, too!

It’s okay to simply enjoy each others company and talk and be silly without the need to compare how someone else is raising their kids or maybe you should be more “fun”…

No! Stop it! You are a fun mom. You are amazing. You do awesome things with your kids and you do them on terms and times when you know you’re able and what’s best for your family! 

It’s important to know your limits in life and when to take a break and when to push on further. Once you have a grasp on that and don’t let the voices of others influence you, you will be much happier.

 

 

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LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU’RE AMAZING –   You’re not perfect. No one is. So, love yourself! So what if you’re a little awkward or shy or don’t want to be the center of attention. You’re still amazing and you have so many wonderful gifts to share with your family and the world. And in your own time when you choose to do so.

Forgive yourself when you fall short or when you try too hard to be a perfectionist. Understand that your flaws are what make you so unique and embrace them completely.

Everyone learns things and copes with things differently. Being an introvert just means that you’re going to do things  differently than other’s. It doesn’t mean you’re doing them wrong or not good enough. You just do things to the beat of your own drum and that’s pretty awesome to me.

Don’t be afraid to stand out and be different. Don’t be afraid to try again when you fall. Each gift, talent and unique ability that you possess is what makes you amazing! Use those every day and you will not only be a better mother for it, but you will be a better person for it. It’s a beautiful thing when you can inspire someone else to let their own unique flame burn bright for the world to see.

 

 

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STOP OVERTHINKING EVERYTHING –   This should be interesting considering that introverts are naturally introspective and in-tune with ourselves. Which means we are often times more prone to overthinking. We seem to know when something is wrong with us even if we can’t pin point exactly what it might be.

We know these things because we have spent so much time thinking over each little detail time and time again. But, sometimes we benefit far more from things and certain situations if we just stop overthinking them.

It’s a hard feat to ask, especially from introspective people. Just think of it as learning something new, because who doesn’t like new things? Call it an experiment or whatever it is that you need to do to take your mind off overthinking things from motherhood, friendships, work or home… Just let it go and simply be in the moment. It’s okay!

 

 

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UNPLUG THE WHOLE FAMILY –    Whether your kids are too small to know what technology is or if you have teenagers whose smartphone has grown into a 6th finger on their hands… Make time for the whole family to unplug and spend some beneficial time together.

It can be so easy to let them play a video game so you can have a moment to yourself and trust me, I am not saying don’t do that. I do that plenty. But, there are times when everyone needs to come together as a family and actually interact with each other… (Cue every teenagers eye rolls…)

Social media and technology today has made some incredible breakthroughs, but it does come at a cost to how we interact with people. Especially how we interact with our family and friends. It’s easier now than ever to be so close to someone and yet so distant. To get wrapped up in comparison or the mindless scrolling and we forget that life isn’t on our smartphone. It is what is happening around us while we are busy looking at our phones.

So, get unplugged and start enjoying the things in life that really matters. Your family, friends and the precious time that you are blessed to be able to spend with them. You would be surprised at just how much time you waste (yes, waste!) on social media… It can be fun and sometimes rewarding to engage with technology. Just don’t forget to live your life!

 

 


 

As an introverted mom, I understand life’s challenges and the uphill battle that is sometimes unavoidable. However, I know how rewarding it can be to embrace who you are and the amazing things life has to offer once you’re comfortable in your own skin. Your spouse, kids, friends and most importantly you will benefit so much more by simply being yourself. Introverted or Extroverted or simply somewhere in between, we are all uniquely wonderful with truly amazing gifts and abilities to share with the world. Are you ready?

 

 

I hope you found this helpful and if you did, please share with friends and family. As always, to stay up to date on the newest blog posts, please Subscribe to our email list so you don’t miss out on anything!

 

Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

Why Make-Up is an Essential Part of My Life as A Busy Mom

Every day is the same, I wake up and immediately go into the kitchen to make myself a cup of coffee. I long to have a few moments of quiet to reflect on what I need to get done for the day, while enjoying a hot cup of coffee.

 

Now, does this mean that every day I am successful in this? No. It does not. But, for the most part, I am able to spend some quiet time with my husband and drink half of my coffee before he leaves for work. Shortly thereafter, I hear little feet pitter patter through the living room in search of breakfast to fill their hungry rumbling tummies.

Once I have them preoccupied and my coffee has been reheated and finished, I begin to get myself “ready” for the day. And, yes, for me that begins with make-up! I love the feeling it gives me and I enjoy the process of putting it on. I understand and respect that not everyone likes make-up or can wear make-up, but for me, it’s just as important as my morning coffee.

 

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There is something about the feeling and rush of happiness I get when I gather my make-up bag and brushes and stand in front of my mirror. It isn’t that I think I need make-up and it isn’t about fitting in or any other crazy social stigma that has been placed around make-up. It’s just about my love of color and feeling pretty and the extra boost of confidence it gives me. Plain & simple.

 

There is a mini process I go through before applying my make-up. Rather typical and normal, but still important. I brush my teeth, then wash my face and moisturize. Then most likely after being interrupted by an argument at the breakfast table, I’ll resume and proceed to brush my hair and pull it back with a hair tie. Now the fun part begins!! ♥

 

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After the base of my make-up is on, I feel more awake and confident. As silly as that may sound, it is what it is. When you’re a busy mom of three kids, it really is the little things. Make-up is not an essential must have in order to function in life. However, for me, it is one of those little things that I have chosen to have in my life because it makes me a happy more creative person, and I am okay with that!

 

Being a Mother is hard and it has its ups and downs, so when you find joy as an individual in something as simple as makeup, or a bookclub, the gym, cooking or trying new foods, then I’d say good for you! It’s important in life to have hobbies and things we really love to do and try. It makes us happier people and in return we are happier mothers! I love make-up, baking and reading inspiring books. I love to lift others up and be a source of inspiration or motivation on any level I can, because that is important to me.

 

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Make-up for me is an expression, kind of like art. After all, you are putting colors on your face almost as if it were your canvas you show the world. It’s fun and exciting. Something new to try every day. And at the end of a long day when you wash your face, it’s a clean slate for you to try again tomorrow. Just like life. 

 

I have often joked about make-up as putting on my face or refer to it as war paint, but to put it boldly, it does act as a shield of confidence armor for me. Just like a brand new outfit feels or a sassy new hairstyle. It’s also important to find make-up that does not have harsh chemicals so it does not effect your health in any negative way. Now you can enjoy the harmless fun & creativity that make-up can bring into your life.

 

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As a busy Mother, make-up has given me an outlet of time for myself and the extra confidence to face the day with all of its challenges, the good & the bad. It also brings some color into the equation. Does make-up make me a better Mom? No, I wouldn’t say it like that. It does however make me feel better as a person, and in return I think I am happier and more optimistic. I encourage my children to try new things and be creative and to help others as often as they can. To always be true to yourself no matter what. In return they each have their own uniquely wonderful personalities, and I enjoy watching them blossom daily.

 

Make-up is a personal choice. It is also personalized to each individual. So, whatever it is that you enjoy doing for yourself, I hope you find joy and happiness! ♥

 

Stay Blessed my Beautiful Mommies!