7 Sanity Saving Tips for Busy Moms in 2020

Do you ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels and never getting anywhere? You’re not alone! As a busy mom of 3 very active children (One of which is entering her first melodramatic teenage year) I fully understand how we can constantly rush and rush, yet never really achieve what we set out to do each day.

 

Not that anyone really notices, but we sure as hell bust our ass every day doing the little trivial things that if we did not get done, then the whole shit show would fall apart anyways. Do you see our dilemma? We are constantly running in circles barely getting traction while tiring ourselves out and it needs to stop!

 

Let’s make this our year to finally get our family life organized and I truly believe it’s possible with some much needed tweaks along the way. Although, I can maybe see hoarding a larger quantity of coffee & dry shampoo while we adjust to some things. (Just my personal tip) Although it may not seem doable most days, it’s still a possibility and I’m running with it…like a toddler trying to escape nap time. We got this!

 

I have put together a list of some crucial steps that must take place before we can get this “show to the production line” in 2020 and finally have productive and successful days as busy moms!

 

1. We must start our day as well rested as possible I understand wanting to stay up the night before indulging in every second of silence that we can…believe me, I do! But we are setting ourselves up for complete and utter failure by not resting our minds. Coffee is magical, but not that good! Sleep is vital to this whole operation. With little ones getting sleep can be difficult if not impossible. Incorporate help from family or friends to watch your little bundle of joy so you can catch some much needed Zzzz’s.

 

2. Give yourself time to get ready for the day FIRST Whether it’s having 30 minutes of silence to enjoy a cup of coffee while the sun rises, or brushing your hair and applying your makeup without having to rush and ultimately stabbing yourself with the mascara wand. Set your alarm to wake you early and allow yourself some extra time to set the tone of your day in a peaceful way. It actually does work very well with step #1!

 

3. Don’t snap at the first sign of struggle Kids will be kids and they seem to come programmed knowing exactly what buttons to push to trigger your last nerve. So set the morning vibes and don’t back down when the trouble or inevitable bickering amongst siblings starts to ensue. Be strong, Mama! You got this.

 

4. Sometimes we need to go with the flow Just as important as it is to not snap at the first sign of struggle, it’s also very important to learn to just go with the flow of things. “Picking your battles” is a very real thing with Motherhood. It allows you to not stress yourself out over every little mess or shout (even if you really want to react) it’s best to just pick your battles and go with the flow. You and your children will be much happier for it.

 

5. Have a routine set in place for the whole family By having a routine set in place, you can help eliminate confusion or too many options for things to not get taken care of. (Example: Have your children clean their plates/bowls from the table after finishing breakfast. Have them lay out their school clothes the night before school to avoid rushing in the mornings. Likewise, lay out your work clothes the night before and enjoy that extra time in the mornings. Sit your trash can out the night before it runs…this is a huge sanity saver! Taking some time to plan and establish a routine of getting things in place will definitely save you and your whole family the headache when time runs short and you will all be glad you did.

 

6. Understand that things will not always go as planned Even if you plan everything out and have it all done the night before, things can and still do go wrong. Your child wakes up sick and throws up on the way out the door on the morning of your business meeting. Your child tells you the morning of their science project being due that they “forgot” to tell you about. You spill coffee on your brand new outfit, you forget your wallet at home, someone cuts you off in the parking lot stealing your spot and now you have to circle it 27 more times. Life happens and it gives us plenty of opportunities to scream and curse the skies, but we can choose not to. Not that I always take the high road in that department, I am however realizing that taking the high road isn’t just for other people, it’s more importantly for me and my inner peace.

 

7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow There will be days where things are going to go smooth and you snap anyways. You have a moment of weakness and simply snap in the middle of your child starting his story over again for the 89th time because he left out yet another small detail. You’ll feel horrible because of it and ask for forgiveness and of course they forgive you, but ultimately you have to forgive yourself, too. We are all human and most of us try the very best we can to do right by other people in hopes they do the same for us. But, at the end of the day all you can control is how you react and respond and what you’re willing to do different the next time the opportunity presents itself. You are not a failure simply because you fail at something. The world is full of great people who have failed more times than I have even attempted something, but they would never have gotten to where they are if they accepted the mindset of failure. Forgive yourself for your short comings (because we all have them) and pick yourself up and try again tomorrow.

 

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As I always say, life is a journey and a roller coaster one at that. With each high and low comes the same gift, a lesson. Experience in something we gained as a result of having gone through it. Whether good or bad, we are stronger because of it.

Choose to accept that every day is going to have its own set of challenges with ups & downs. As long as you’re doing your part in minimizing the chances of things going crazy by planning, having a routine, remaining calm and going with the flow of things so when life throws you a curve ball (as it will) you can forgive yourself for reacting poorly in the moment of a tough situation and try again tomorrow.

Allow yourself grace and understanding that better days are coming and you will get through all of the tough days just like you have gotten through all of them before that you could not see a way out of or an end in sight. You’re stronger and more capable than you think and you totally got this!

 

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

 

 

Inspiration for the New Year (and Decade)

Cheer’s to the New Year & Decade! May it be your BEST one yet!

 

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No matter where you are today or what you may be thinking, today symbolizes a fresh new start and opportunity. Today is the FIRST Monday of not only the year, but of the new decade! We could sit and grumble over the fact that it’s “Monday”, but let’s face it…we all need to look outside of the box from time to time and see things from another perspective. I’m here to offer just that and a bit of inspiration to boot!

 

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Whether you’re smashing your new year goals so far without the slightest bit of hesitation or grimace or you’re in serious need of a pick-me-up and ready to throw in the towel. You’re not alone!

 

Everyone has their own specific and personal goals in mind for what they’re bringing to this new chapter in their life and once again (the new decade). Hey, that’s pretty exciting stuff and you should be excited about it, too!

If there is one thing I love, it is to bring inspiration and cheer to others. No, I may not be able to say that I have walked in your shoes or felt what you’ve felt, but empathy is not lost on me and I, too, have had my share of grief in this life.

 

So cheer up, Momma!  You’re going to kick ass in this new season of your life & make your dreams come true!

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Whatever the past decade has dealt you, don’t be afraid to reshuffle your deck!

 

 

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There is so much beauty in your life and though it may be hard to see it now, the storms will begin to clear and the sun will come out again! Take heart in knowing you aren’t alone in your troubles or fears and you’re truly blessed to wake to see another day. Yes, your life is probably sometimes a crazy mess, but in the end you will see all of your beautifully broken pieces mended together in a masterpiece!

 

 

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It’s okay to take time and just breathe. Just be in the moment and not worry about the things that need to get done. Take time to relax and recharge your batteries and indulge in self-care. Because that is so very important to making everything else fall into place.

 

 

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LIVE. CREATE. SPEAK. HUG. SMILE. HOPE. LAUGH. SEEK. INSPIRE. LOVE.

 

 

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Sometimes not getting what you want may seem disappointing in the beginning, but can turn out to be your biggest blessing in the end. Not all roads are meant to lead you to your final destination. So enjoy the detours along the way!

 

 

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Get your creativity flowing again and reignite your passion. Whether it be writing, drawing, painting, singing, etc. Today is your day and this is your sign! Get started!

 

 

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You got this, girl! There will be speed bumps along the way, but don’t let that stop you from pursuing your goals and making your dreams come true! Rome was not built in a day! Every time you quit and start over, you’re only delaying your own progress in life.

 

 

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Do something great today that your tomorrow self will thank you for!

 

 

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Thank your past self for the lessons learned and tell your future self you’re ready!

 

 

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Thinking outside the box is crucial. There is a reason they say old ways won’t open new doors. Don’t be afraid to shake it up a bit or even to reinvent yourself.

 

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I believe it! The question is, do you? And what are you willing to do to bring your dreams to fruition?

 

 

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Grab the bull by the horns and look the devil in the eyes and while you’re at it, punch today in the face! This is your time to shine and you will succeed because you’re crazy enough to think so! Let’s make it happen. I’m ready! Are you?

 

 

 “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.” —Neil Gaiman

The Lessons I Learned In 2019

The time has come to bid farewell to this year, and what a year it has been. So many wonderful and disastrous things happened almost seeming to go hand in hand. Alas, we have made it to the last few days of the year. Hallelujah!

 

As we get ready to raise our glass to ring in this New Year, take a moment to reflect on the lessons that 2019 taught you. Although, nothing is perfect or grand in life every single day, there is always something to be taken away from those less than ideal experiences.

 

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Earlier this year I lost my job and although it wasn’t heartbreaking in the least, there were still many lessons it taught me on who my true friends were and who only cared to take advantage of my kindness and generosity. I truly believe that if you learn something valuable and gain more respect for yourself in the process, then nothing was ever a waste of your time.

 

Wisdom comes from growth & growth is painful, but the outcome is always beautiful…

 

Fast forward a few months and I had the opportunity to accept a temporary job helping to serve my community. I was never one to believe that when one door closed another would open. That’s how doors work, right? However, great things happen sometimes when we least expect it. I am grateful for the friendships I made and the knowledge I gained which helped make it worth the sad parting goodbye as my contract came to a close this past week.

 

What can seem like a bitter year end is all in how you choose to look at it, and I choose to see the positive in my life every chance I can. This year has many of them.

 

I gained new friends to share laughs with and silly inside jokes.

I gained a new respect for our emergency first responders and the trauma they encounter on a daily basis.

I learned it’s okay when people walk out of your life, because it leaves room for better people to walk in.

I forgive myself more when I fall short and allow myself grace to improve in my weak areas.

I learned just because other people are bitter and spiteful doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I learned that when people say hurtful things that aren’t true about you that it shows their true character and not yours.

I learned to be okay with people not knowing my side of the story.

I learned that forgiving others is never for them, it is always for you.

I learned that not everyone is your friend and its okay to remove toxic people from your life.

I learned that not everyone is going to like me and to stop forcing things that aren’t meant to be.

I learned that some of the most unlikely people turn out to be the ones who care the most.

I learned that there are no shortcuts in life, but consistency will help get you there quicker.

I learned that if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen and not an excuse.

I learned that everyone falls short and there are no perfect people and that most of us are all in this life trying the very best we can.

 

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No matter what this year took you through, I pray you find peace in knowing that you are not alone and you are loved.

As I close this yearly chapter of my life and prepare for the next one, I realize that even though I have lost jobs, friendships and experienced heartache along the way, I am blessed to have woken up this morning and given the chance to be a better mother, wife and human being and that is priceless.

 

Tomorrow is never promised and today is a gift. Life is a journey and a roller coaster at that. So enjoy the ride and make the most of it!

 

Welcome 2020! Here’s to the next decade!

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