7 Sanity Saving Tips for Busy Moms in 2020

Do you ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels and never getting anywhere? You’re not alone! As a busy mom of 3 very active children (One of which is entering her first melodramatic teenage year) I fully understand how we can constantly rush and rush, yet never really achieve what we set out to do each day.

 

Not that anyone really notices, but we sure as hell bust our ass every day doing the little trivial things that if we did not get done, then the whole shit show would fall apart anyways. Do you see our dilemma? We are constantly running in circles barely getting traction while tiring ourselves out and it needs to stop!

 

Let’s make this our year to finally get our family life organized and I truly believe it’s possible with some much needed tweaks along the way. Although, I can maybe see hoarding a larger quantity of coffee & dry shampoo while we adjust to some things. (Just my personal tip) Although it may not seem doable most days, it’s still a possibility and I’m running with it…like a toddler trying to escape nap time. We got this!

 

I have put together a list of some crucial steps that must take place before we can get this “show to the production line” in 2020 and finally have productive and successful days as busy moms!

 

1. We must start our day as well rested as possible I understand wanting to stay up the night before indulging in every second of silence that we can…believe me, I do! But we are setting ourselves up for complete and utter failure by not resting our minds. Coffee is magical, but not that good! Sleep is vital to this whole operation. With little ones getting sleep can be difficult if not impossible. Incorporate help from family or friends to watch your little bundle of joy so you can catch some much needed Zzzz’s.

 

2. Give yourself time to get ready for the day FIRST Whether it’s having 30 minutes of silence to enjoy a cup of coffee while the sun rises, or brushing your hair and applying your makeup without having to rush and ultimately stabbing yourself with the mascara wand. Set your alarm to wake you early and allow yourself some extra time to set the tone of your day in a peaceful way. It actually does work very well with step #1!

 

3. Don’t snap at the first sign of struggle Kids will be kids and they seem to come programmed knowing exactly what buttons to push to trigger your last nerve. So set the morning vibes and don’t back down when the trouble or inevitable bickering amongst siblings starts to ensue. Be strong, Mama! You got this.

 

4. Sometimes we need to go with the flow Just as important as it is to not snap at the first sign of struggle, it’s also very important to learn to just go with the flow of things. “Picking your battles” is a very real thing with Motherhood. It allows you to not stress yourself out over every little mess or shout (even if you really want to react) it’s best to just pick your battles and go with the flow. You and your children will be much happier for it.

 

5. Have a routine set in place for the whole family By having a routine set in place, you can help eliminate confusion or too many options for things to not get taken care of. (Example: Have your children clean their plates/bowls from the table after finishing breakfast. Have them lay out their school clothes the night before school to avoid rushing in the mornings. Likewise, lay out your work clothes the night before and enjoy that extra time in the mornings. Sit your trash can out the night before it runs…this is a huge sanity saver! Taking some time to plan and establish a routine of getting things in place will definitely save you and your whole family the headache when time runs short and you will all be glad you did.

 

6. Understand that things will not always go as planned Even if you plan everything out and have it all done the night before, things can and still do go wrong. Your child wakes up sick and throws up on the way out the door on the morning of your business meeting. Your child tells you the morning of their science project being due that they “forgot” to tell you about. You spill coffee on your brand new outfit, you forget your wallet at home, someone cuts you off in the parking lot stealing your spot and now you have to circle it 27 more times. Life happens and it gives us plenty of opportunities to scream and curse the skies, but we can choose not to. Not that I always take the high road in that department, I am however realizing that taking the high road isn’t just for other people, it’s more importantly for me and my inner peace.

 

7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow There will be days where things are going to go smooth and you snap anyways. You have a moment of weakness and simply snap in the middle of your child starting his story over again for the 89th time because he left out yet another small detail. You’ll feel horrible because of it and ask for forgiveness and of course they forgive you, but ultimately you have to forgive yourself, too. We are all human and most of us try the very best we can to do right by other people in hopes they do the same for us. But, at the end of the day all you can control is how you react and respond and what you’re willing to do different the next time the opportunity presents itself. You are not a failure simply because you fail at something. The world is full of great people who have failed more times than I have even attempted something, but they would never have gotten to where they are if they accepted the mindset of failure. Forgive yourself for your short comings (because we all have them) and pick yourself up and try again tomorrow.

 

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As I always say, life is a journey and a roller coaster one at that. With each high and low comes the same gift, a lesson. Experience in something we gained as a result of having gone through it. Whether good or bad, we are stronger because of it.

Choose to accept that every day is going to have its own set of challenges with ups & downs. As long as you’re doing your part in minimizing the chances of things going crazy by planning, having a routine, remaining calm and going with the flow of things so when life throws you a curve ball (as it will) you can forgive yourself for reacting poorly in the moment of a tough situation and try again tomorrow.

Allow yourself grace and understanding that better days are coming and you will get through all of the tough days just like you have gotten through all of them before that you could not see a way out of or an end in sight. You’re stronger and more capable than you think and you totally got this!

 

 

 

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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥

 

 

 

The Lessons I Learned In 2019

The time has come to bid farewell to this year, and what a year it has been. So many wonderful and disastrous things happened almost seeming to go hand in hand. Alas, we have made it to the last few days of the year. Hallelujah!

 

As we get ready to raise our glass to ring in this New Year, take a moment to reflect on the lessons that 2019 taught you. Although, nothing is perfect or grand in life every single day, there is always something to be taken away from those less than ideal experiences.

 

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Earlier this year I lost my job and although it wasn’t heartbreaking in the least, there were still many lessons it taught me on who my true friends were and who only cared to take advantage of my kindness and generosity. I truly believe that if you learn something valuable and gain more respect for yourself in the process, then nothing was ever a waste of your time.

 

Wisdom comes from growth & growth is painful, but the outcome is always beautiful…

 

Fast forward a few months and I had the opportunity to accept a temporary job helping to serve my community. I was never one to believe that when one door closed another would open. That’s how doors work, right? However, great things happen sometimes when we least expect it. I am grateful for the friendships I made and the knowledge I gained which helped make it worth the sad parting goodbye as my contract came to a close this past week.

 

What can seem like a bitter year end is all in how you choose to look at it, and I choose to see the positive in my life every chance I can. This year has many of them.

 

I gained new friends to share laughs with and silly inside jokes.

I gained a new respect for our emergency first responders and the trauma they encounter on a daily basis.

I learned it’s okay when people walk out of your life, because it leaves room for better people to walk in.

I forgive myself more when I fall short and allow myself grace to improve in my weak areas.

I learned just because other people are bitter and spiteful doesn’t mean you have to participate.

I learned that when people say hurtful things that aren’t true about you that it shows their true character and not yours.

I learned to be okay with people not knowing my side of the story.

I learned that forgiving others is never for them, it is always for you.

I learned that not everyone is your friend and its okay to remove toxic people from your life.

I learned that not everyone is going to like me and to stop forcing things that aren’t meant to be.

I learned that some of the most unlikely people turn out to be the ones who care the most.

I learned that there are no shortcuts in life, but consistency will help get you there quicker.

I learned that if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen and not an excuse.

I learned that everyone falls short and there are no perfect people and that most of us are all in this life trying the very best we can.

 

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No matter what this year took you through, I pray you find peace in knowing that you are not alone and you are loved.

As I close this yearly chapter of my life and prepare for the next one, I realize that even though I have lost jobs, friendships and experienced heartache along the way, I am blessed to have woken up this morning and given the chance to be a better mother, wife and human being and that is priceless.

 

Tomorrow is never promised and today is a gift. Life is a journey and a roller coaster at that. So enjoy the ride and make the most of it!

 

Welcome 2020! Here’s to the next decade!

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The Summer Days of Motherhood

More like the summer daze of motherhood if we’re being honest.  The constant picking up of sopping wet clothes all over the bathroom floor, the constant in and out of the house and the endless snacks can definitely cause some major mommy head spins.

 

Then there are the “well meaning” people who are quick to remind you that you only get 18 summers with your kids so you better cherish even the worst of days. Don’t get me wrong, I totally do. It’s just really hard to do so in the moment of being sleep deprived and hearing your two youngest children yelling at the top of their lungs over some video game because one won’t follow the other around… Cry me a freaking river!

Kids today aren’t in love with the idea of playing long hours outside.. They need constant air conditioning and to tell you how tired they are every 5 minutes. Gone are the days of drinking water from the garden hose or having fun in a sprinkler and then air drying while you ride bikes as fast as you can. (Ahh, the good ole days)

So every chance I get to help my kids enjoy the sweet bliss of their childhood doing anything other than sitting in their rooms on their x-box’s, I’m game! (pun intended) Then there are days where I am drinking my 3rd coffee at noon begging for 5 minutes of quiet because I can’t form a single thought from all the chaos… And I know I am not alone!

 

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There is just something different about summertime. Something that inadvertently makes us moms feel like if we are not constantly doing something with our kids or making the 100th craft idea we saw on Pinterest…then we are failures! Sorry, but I’m not buying what you’re selling with thoughts like that. Let me tell you why…

Believe it or not – kids are simple and yours are, too!! Need proof? Okay! How many times when your children were little would they rather play with the box that the toy came in rather than the actual toy itself.. How many times have you ever heard a small child say this is the best day ever because you flagged down the ice cream truck. Kids are more simple than we realize.

We moms beat ourselves into the ground trying to make sure that our kids are having this grand and amazing childhood with all these expensive trips ( and yeah, they will love those, too ) but, chances are what they will remember most are the blanket forts you make or the silly traditional things that only your family does.

 

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We need to stop driving ourselves crazy and take some time to relax this summer, too. Let the kids enjoy the water or let them play one extra game. The most important thing is that everyone is having fun. That includes us as well.

 

So pour yourself a 3rd or 4th coffee and take a moment to soak in the brief truce made between your kids before the next fight breaks loose. Summer only lasts a season even though it feels like eternity. School is just around the corner, so don’t forget to update your back to school countdown.. One more day down and don’t kid yourself to think that we aren’t counting them down.

 

 

 

Until next time my beautiful mommies – stay safe, cool and blessed this summer!!

50 Inspirational Quotes for Mother’s

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As a mother of three, I know that being a parent is hard. It will take everything you have and then demand for more. Day in and day out you rise to take care of these beautiful souls you have brought into this world.

Their needs and wants fill your head all day until you begin to wonder if you have any thoughts of your own. They argue with their siblings and make messes left and right. You plead for quiet and calm and they respond with loud and chaos.

You begin to question your sanity and wonder if you can make it 5 more minutes without totally losing it. Then it happens. Bedtime has arrived. You tuck them into bed, kiss their heads, tell them you love them and wish them sweet dreams.

I see you there now, gathering your wary thoughts in silence and recapping your day. Wondering if you did everything right as a mother. Did you spend enough time with them? Lose your cool too much? Are you screwing this parenting thing up?

 

Every mother wonders these things. You are not alone! 

 

You check on your sleeping children and wonder how such calm and precious little faces can be so loud and demanding. They are so peaceful and sweet while they dream. It’s hard to believe hours before they were up running through the house screaming at their siblings and asking for their 50th snack of the day.

 

I’m here to tell you, you’re doing an amazing job! You’re wonderful, appreciated and loved. They may not see all that you do for them now, but one day they will look back and see that you always had their back. No matter what! You were there for them, cheering them on at school events, helping with homework and encouraging their dreams.

 

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Here are 50 Inspirational Quotes to remind you that you are an amazing mother and your irreplaceable love is one of a kind. ♥

 

1.) “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.” ―Agatha Christie

2.) There will be so many times you feel like you’ve failed. But in the eyes, heart, and mind of your child, you are super mom.  -Author Unknown

3.) “Finding balance as a mother means accepting your imperfections.” – Mary Organizes

4.) “A mothers’ joy begins when new life is stirring inside…when a tiny heartbeat is heard for the first time, and a playful kick reminds her that she is never alone.” -Author Unknown

5.) “A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for.” -Anonymous

6.) “No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.” -Edwin Hubbell Chapin

7.) “A mother is someone who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.” -Unknown Author

8.) “There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.” -Jill Churchill

9.) “All mothers are working mothers.” -Author Unknown

10.) “Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” -Robert Browning

 

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11.) “Behind every great child is a mom who’s pretty sure she’s screwing it all up.” -Author Unknown

12.) “Motherhood has relaxed me in many ways. You learn to deal with crisis. I’ve become a juggler, I suppose. It’s all a big circus, and nobody who knows me believes I can manage, but sometimes I do.” -Jane Seymour

13.) “Motherhood is wonderful, but it’s also hard work. It’s the logistics more than anything. You discover you have reserves of energy you didn’t know you had.” -Deborah Mailman

14.) “Most mothers are instinctive philosophers.” -Harriet Beecher Stowe

15.) “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.” -Gail Tsukiyama

16.) “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.” -Princess Diana

17.) “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” -W.R. Wallace

18.) “The fastest way to break the cycle of perfectionism and become a fearless mother is to give up the idea of doing it perfectly—indeed to embrace uncertainty and imperfection.” -Arianna Huffington

19.) “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.” -Sharon Jaynes

20.) “Motherhood is a choice you make every day, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.” -Donna Ball

 

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21.) “In the end…I am the only one who can give my children a happy mother who loves life.” -Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard

22.) “I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one of the greatest spiritual teachers there is.” – Oprah

23.) “Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” – Marion C. Garretty

24.) “Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” – Barbara Kingsolver

25.) “One of the greatest titles in the world is parent, and one of the biggest blessings in the world is to have parents to call mom and dad.” -Jim DeMint

26.) “The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” -Honore de Balzac

27.) “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”  -Ricki Lake

28.) “The best part of being a mom to me is the unconditional love. I have never felt a love as pure, a love that’s as rewarding.” -Monica Denise Brown

29.) “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.” -Meryl Streep

30.) “Mothers are all slightly insane.” -J. D. Salinger

 

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31.) “Moms are life’s number one cheerleaders without uniforms.” -Richelle E. Goodrich

32.) “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” -Washington Irving

33.) “The phrase ‘working mother’ is redundant.” -Jane Sellman

34.) “Youth fades; love droops; the leaves of friendship fall; A mother’s secret hope out lives them all.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

35.)  “A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” -Victor Hugo

36.) “She raised us with humor, and she raised us to understand that not everything was going to be great—but how to laugh through it.” -Liza Minnelli

37.) “Love as powerful as your mother’s for you leaves its own mark … to have been loved so deeply .. will give us some protection forever.” -J.K. Rowling

38.) “Whatever else is unsure in this stinking dunghill of a world a mother’s love is not.” -James Joyce

39.)  “Being a mom has made me so tired. And so happy.” -Tina Fey

40.) “I think every working mom probably feels the same thing: You go through big chunks of time where you’re just thinking, ‘This is impossible — oh, this is impossible.’ And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible.” -Tina Fey

 

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41.) “I see myself as mom first. I’m so lucky to have that role in life. The world can like me, hate me or fall apart around me and at least I wake up with my kids and I’m happy.” -Angelina Jolie

42.) “You sacrificed for us. You’re the real MVP.” -Kevin Durant

43.) “There’s something that just happens to you when you have a baby, and you look at their little eyes for the first time when you’re holding them. They’ve been safe inside your belly for almost 10 months, and now they’re in your arms. Intuition kicks in, where you will do anything for them and you have all the tools inside of you to take care of them.” -Hilary Duff

44.) “If I’ve learned anything as a mom with a daughter who’s three, I’ve learned that you cannot judge the way another person is raising their kid. Everybody is just doing the best they can. It’s hard to be a mom.” -Maggie Gyllenhaal

45.) “There’s no such thing as a supermom. We just do the best we can.” -Sarah Michelle Gellar

46.) “A mother understands what a child does not say.” -Jewish Proverb

47.) “A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories.” -Honore de Balzac

48.) “Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” -Charles R. Swindoll

49.) “To a child’s ear, “mother” is magic in any language.” –Arlene Benedict

50.) “Mother’s love is peace.  It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.” –Erich Fromm